Ballerific Relationships: Stop Giving Your Bestie Bad Advice -

our best girlfriend, crying , distraught and upset
about her bae. No matter the time of day, or what
is going on, as long as we are able, we are there
for her to offer a listening ear and advice for her
in her time of need.
Some advice is good advice, but not all. Bad
advice could cause a rift in the friendship or leave
your bestfriend more upset than before she asked
for your help. So here are four tips to avoid when
giving your bestie advice.
1 . Tell Her to Break Up With Her Man
Unless he is physically harming her, or destroying
her well being, do not tell her to break up with
him. Let her decide. If she wants to put up with
his lies, then she will and its your job as a best
friend to support her in that. Now, feel free to tell
her she deserves better or that you don’t think
he’s the best for you, but do not tell her to leave
him. Let’s say you advise her to leave and she
does, and at some inevitable point, she becomes
sad and lonely. Will you be there to fill that void?
To take his place? To give her the same feelings
of joy he did? Probably not considering you have
your own life to tend to. You also don’t want her
to end up regretting you, or blaming you for that
loneliness or sadness.
2. Let you mediate the conflict between her
and bae
Because you are her best friend, it’s instinct for
you to want to confront her boyfriend and tell him
all the ways he’s hurt your best friend, but no
good can come from that. First off, its none of
your business. Yeah you can tell her what to do,
but it’s up to her to enforce it, not you. Secondly,
if that’s your true best friend, you are just as
upset and biased as she is; so what makes your
decision making process anymore valid than
hers?
3. Seek Revenge
Revenge is not a solution to anything. It may
help her feelings for the moment, but busting his
windows out, doesn’t mean he’ll stop cheating.
Instead, encourage her to calm down, and think
things through rationally, before aimlessly
reacting.
4. Confront Him Right Away
There is nothing smart about confronting a
situation in the middle of blind rage. So don’t tell
her to confront him right away, or egg her on to
start an argument. Again, encourage her to take
some time to think things through and come up
with a proper solution.
So the next time you answer a “CODE RED” phone
call, and swoop in for the rescue, make sure you
don’t let your love for your bestie cloud your
judgment. Avoid the above, and give sound advice
instead.