When the second trimester of Sophia's
pregnancy was closing, she tortuously
announced to me that she was in the family
way.
My mind was bemused, and so was my soul
confused. But I quickly realized that nothing
more could be done to alter my status as a
father-to-be. I knew that i was not ready to be a
dad. Still, I adjusted myself to the realities of my
new situation and the consequences of my past
personal indiscretions. I made the determination
that I was going to be a good dad. I also
reasoned that my blunder is not enough pretext
to make me a husband. I was just 21. And so I
decided to be a responsible dad without being
husband to the mother of my baby. I never was
in love with Sophia neither was marriage ever in
the offing.
Without knowing for sure that I was the real dad
of the baby, I entrusted Sophia to the services
of a private hospital for both pre-natal and post-
natal medical cares. An apartment at Lekki was
leased for 2 years, and paid for by me. The
burden of medical bills, feeding, transportation
and sundry costs rested on my person. No
family member of Sophia including Uncle Dele
Momodu rose to help nor guide Sophia
I own my property at Lekki and had allowed
Sophia to stay in the house because she
claimed that she knew nobody in Lagos and that
her father was deceased whilst her mother was
resident in Abuja. For real, Sophia was a drifter
without a dime, education nor career. My
compassion, ignorance, naivety and poor
judgment had combined to make me a victim to
a much older lady with super cunning sense that
was mixed with a vicious and diabolical nature. I
stand accused but calmly accepted my
responsibility for the sad misadventure that
caused me to be a seat-mate with Sophia on a
plane that was flying nowhere.
All along, I have only been generous with Sophia
without knowing for sure I was the father to the
baby she was carrying. On May 14, 2015, Sophia
delivered her baby named Imade. It was after
Sophia had delivered the baby that DNA testing
medically confirmed that I was indeed the
biological father of our child named Imade.
Once this status was obtained, Sophia started to
apply maximum financial demands on me. I
bought all the baby things and fully furnished
her apartment. Sophia knew well how to spend
money and yet contributed zero to the vast
expenses that I incurred. None in her family
contributed even a fake coin to the cost of
having Imade.
Uncle Dele Momodu, now the pompous moralist,
never visited Sophia nor even delivered an
ordinary greeting card to Imade nor to her mum.
Throughout the many months that Sophia
stayed at my house when she claimed she has
no family in Lagos, Uncle Dele Momodu and his
bossy wife never showed up at my house to say
hello to either of us.
When the going was good, Sophia had told me
plenty things about her uncle Dele Momodu that
I need not repeat here. And she never invited me
to go with her to visit him and I don’t have the
knowledge that she ever visited him throughout
the time she stayed in my house. She always
explained that a visit to Uncle Dele was needless
and unnecessary. Uncle Dele Momodu never
liked, and still does not like Sophia. He is now
just grandstanding because Sophia had a baby
for a fairly prominent family and famous Davido.
The case of Mrs. Momodu baffles me even
more. Why did she not think it necessary to
move to Sophia’s apartment to help her out and
show her the tricks of motherhood when Imade
was newly born. Not once did she visit Sophia
and her baby until December 2015. She gave
neither care, love nor financial support to
Sophia.
Now, at 7 months old, and a child with special
medical needs, Mrs. Momodu rushed to the
Lagos Airport to make an awful botch of her
standing as a mother: Mrs. Momodu certainly
not a good person. She put time and energy to
prevent my daughter and I,the real father of
Imade, from travelling aboard to keep an
appointment with the American Hospital, Dubai.
At the point of dying in November, 2015Imade
had been rushed to this medical facility in Dubai,
where she received helpful and adequate
treatment, and was duly returned to Nigeria,
without any side excursions.
What then suddenly propels the fear or
dangerous love of Mr. & Mrs. Momodu for
Sophia? I deeply sense this couple never loved
Sophia nor her late father. They also resent her
mum, and probably are jealous that Sophia ever
became a mum herself, and thus, wish that
Sophia’s daughter who is also my daughter,
must needlessly perish.
Where is the inherent value in a callous human
ploy that directly intends to prevent a child from
receiving necessary medical care aboard once
the biological father, David Adeleke, the child's
grandfather and all my siblings who are uncles
and aunties to Imade are booked to fly on this
essential medical trip to which we have attached
a restful family vacation? Sophia ain’t a member
of our family, period.
SURELY, SOPHIA WAS NOT WITH IMADE WHEN
SHE FIRST VISITED DUBAI, AND YET IMADE
WAS PROMPTLY RETURNED TO NIGERIA. AND
NO ONE SAID SOPHIA CANNOT COME TO DUBAI
EXCEPT THAT I DECLARED THAT I DON’T WANT
THE TRIP TO SEEM LIKE A SPOUSAL GET-
AWAY. SOPHIA AIN’T MY WIFE AND I REFUSE
TO LET ANY ACTION CONSPIRE TO MAKE US
LOOK LIKE A COUPLE. SHE SEEMED UNABLE OR
UNWILLING TO PAY HER WAY TO DUBAI. ALSO,
HER BOASTFUL UNCLE, ALAS, REFUSED TO
VOLUNTEER TO PAY HER WAY TO DUBAI. I
NEVER SUGGESTED TO AN ELDER WHAT HE
SHOULD TAKE UP AS HIS PERSONAL
RESPONSIBILITY IF INDEED HE CARED AT ALL
FOR SOPHIA AS HIS ROBUST INVOLVEMENT IN
OUR ODD RELATIONSHIP WISHES TO
ESTABLISH.MRMOMODU NEVER BOUGHT THE
TICKET BUT WANTED TO ENFORCE HIS COSINE
TO JOIN MY FAMILY ON THIS DUBAI TRIP.
Mr. Dele Momodu should just leave me and my
family alone! His daughter is not who had a
baby for me, and he has been too much of an
absentee uncle to Sophia to have any traction
on the moral authority that commands the soul
and heart of this matter. Sophia Never formally
introduced him nor his wife to me, at anytime.
Why are they now crowding my space and that
of my daughter?
Custody, Lifestyle and Imade's Loss of Wellness
In May, the same month Imade was born,
Sophia settled in her fancy apartment for which
I paid a hefty bill for a 2 year lease. Her baby
was healthy. And she seemed happy. I would
take care of all the financial needs of Imade and
still pay Sophia a living allowance of 300,000
Naira plus utility bills.
Within a matter of weeks, Sophia missing and
lusting for the streets of Lagos, especially the
glitzy night life. She often left Imade home for
clubbing, binge drinking and a life of debauchery
and deviant living. She would sleep all day and
party all night. When awake, she was addicted
to the telephone and cannabis. She paid the
baby no attention at all and seems to despise
motherhood and parenting.
Imade was in her custody for2 straight months,
unchallenged and uninterrupted, until the baby
took badly and severely ill in July. Imade cried,
ceaselessly, for 48 hours. She was rushed to the
hospital where her condition confounded medical
experts. Several tests were conducted on her
and later on the mother. Medical reports, herein
attached(exhibit 1), proved that Sophia's blood
was polluted to the maximum level with
cannabis and she had by the process of breast
feeding infected her child with complicated
medical conditions associated with the use of
alcohol and especially cannabis. The trouble
spot for Imade was her lungs. She had difficulty
breathing largely because of the contaminated
breast milk and the severity of the ''Second
Smoke'' of marijuana inhaled by the poor child.
The medical experts at the hospital were
enraged by the callous treatment of Imade by
her own mother and declared her unfit for the
caring and the nursing of a delicate baby. The
team determined that they would hand over the
baby to the Children’s Welfare Authority of
Lagos State Government. My family started to
plead with the hospital management. For the
first time, Sophia too was sober, sorry and
contrite. We pleaded that the baby would be
kept from the mother once she was returned to
us, and that we would take over responsibilities
for Imade’s welfare.
Voluntarily, Sophia, in the attempt to avoid the
handing over of the baby to the children welfare
authority, agreed to a compromise position that
she would transfer Imade to the Adeleke family
until the cannabis in the systems of both mum
and daughter was completely outand
comprehensively cleaned out. The medical
expert also indicated that the full damage to
Imade's person could not be ascertained right
away and that her mental state now or in the
future could not be determined nor predicted,
until perhaps when she would have attained
adulthood. This was why and how Imade was
transferred to the custody of the Adeleke family.
Soonest, Sophia began to make vigorous
demands for the brand new car promised to her
by me in May. My father stood out of all this
matter and pointedly told me, that although I
was very young but I was already making big
income and therefore must learn to be a
responsible adult who takes care of business
properly and accordingly. He had instructed
since May, that i should provide the mother of
my baby with a car, without delay. But I have
since had a change of mind on this issue
because of Sophia's night crawling activities and
reckless partying at night clubs.
Her clubbing rendezvous escalated. In fact, she
had gone to a club on Victoria Island and spent
250,000 Naira in one night. Unashamedly,she
told the management of the club to slap
''Davido'' with the bill. I have refused to pay but
till date, the club has never let off the
harassment of my person for the settlement of
this wild bill. I still don't believe that my
obstinacy will finally absorbed from the payment
of this reckless charge. This was one of the
main reason I put the purchase of the car on
hold
Meanwhile, Imade was increasingly worse off in
wellness and she had to be flown to the
American hospital in Dubai. I wrote a letter of
release authorizing my sister to travel to Dubai
with Imade. The hospital saved Imade who was
returned to Nigeria with a medical equipment
that had to be used daily to enable Imade to
gain restful sleep and balanced respiratory
rhythm. The photograph of this equipment is
hereby attached. (Exhibit 2)
If Imade had not gone to Dubai, it is fair to say
that she may not be alive today. Still, some
people prevented her from keeping a follow-up
appointment at the American Hospital in
Dubai.For the silliest possible reason.My family
would not pay for Sophia's flight ticket and thus
Imade would be disallowed from traveling for
the vital purpose of medical conditions that lend
oxygen to her life. Which is more important to
Mr Dele Momomdu, the ticket for his cousin or
the overall wellness of Imade? And why can't
this glamorous uncle buy the ticket for Sophia
so that the life of Imade is not compromised?
The claim has been made that the aborted trip
to Dubia was to takeImade to America. This is
not true. Imade's Nigerian passport is right now
with the Immigration Office with no American
Visa embossed on it and Imade, though qualified
to possess an American Passport because her
dad is an American citizen, still does not
possess an American passport.
True, her passport is being processed but the
truancy of her mother has caused a major delay.
I therefore ask, how will Imade have entered
America without a visa on her Nigeria passport?
The great dynamics of lying is that the liar is
the first to know that he has told a lie, and the
lies told would certainly demolish his integrity
and the peace of his soul. Uncle Dele Momodu,
beware!
So poor in understanding is the cerebral capacity
of your cousin or niece that she cannot even
operate the equipment that stabilizes her child's
lungs, despite rigorous training offered to her
(Exhibit2). She is dismally inattentive. But she is
a fabulous cannon fodder for all the frivolities of
life. What more can I do for a woman who is not
my wife? I am 23. I ain't ready for marriage or
even fatherhood. But I have accepted my
responsibilities as my father raised me to
understand life and deal with all its challenges.
The only reason why some of us are dancing
naked in the market place today, is because
Sophia's request to go to Dubai on my ticket
was declined. She is demanding for her new car
and a raise of her allowance to one million naira
per month. The sole reason why she's
demanding for the custody of Imade is to justify
the necessity for this delusional one million
naira. A domestic matter that could have been
quietly and sensibly settled, has been tossed to
the public domain with the brutal consequences
to the most innocent actor in this drama, Imade.
From December 23-28, Sophia lived at my
father's Lekki residence in peace, except for the
first one hour when a medication was misapplied
by her and Imade speedily vomited for a
fearfully long time. Sophia did not know how to
even bathe her own baby. She brought a friend
to stay with her in a 3-bedroom flat with a
resident professional nurse and nanny. Overall,
her stay was joyful and in alignment with the
thrills of the Christmas holiday season.
On December 29, less than 24hours of leaving
my father's house, Sophia was at the airport in
the company of her uncle and his wife with
malice aforethought and the aim to do maximum
damage that would obstruct her child from
traveling aboard to receive necessary and
needful medical care. She was welcome to join
us if she had bought her ticket or her uncle had
funded her for the trip.
I offered to buy her a car and suggested a
Toyota brand or Hyundai. She lost her cool and
told me off. She wanted a fancy jeep and
preferably, a Mercedes Benz Jeep. I laughed
because she just wanted to be a Lagos Big Girl
for nothing. She hardly can cope with the
cheapest car much less the ruinous cost of
maintaining a Mercedes Benz vehicle. In
December she received 500,000 naira as her
allowance without doing anything for Imade. Life
is not a bed of roses. Neither have I ever
promised Sophia a rose garden. Her
spontaneous motions of delusions utterly baffle
me!
On her twitter page, she claimed she has
recovered Imade from captivity. But Imade never
was in captivity. Sophia certainly knows where
Imade is. And it is where she left her on
December 28, at my father's house. What is the
lie about? Sophia also claimed that she hasn't
seen her daughter in 5 months, this cannot be
true. Sophie spent every Sunday with her baby
at my father's house since July 2015 when she
voluntarily transferred Imade to the Adeleke
family after the cannabis incidence.
She and her daughter constantly appear on her
facebook and twitter pages throughout this
period of 5 months. What manner of unreliable
and lying person is Sophia.? The picture of your
reconciliation with Imade after ''captivity'' that
you posted on your twitter page came directly
from the photo shoot that you posed for at my
father's house during your Christmas stay. Why
can't you ever be affable with truth nor have a
relationship with honour?
Uncle Dele Momodu was the first to bring this
domestic matter online and onto the internet.
Uncle Dele Momodu ran smack into the internet
highway on December 30 with Video recordings
that he dishonestly, immorally and unlawfully
recorded at a government facility and office at
the Murtala Mohammed International Airport,
Lagos. Uncle, you are wrong and you are not
doing the right thing.
Life is beautiful if we all live in simple ways and
do not engage criminal gadgets to replace
integrity and honour. Your recordings cannot
alter the fact that I am ''Davido'' father of Imade
and it cannot force me to be the husband of
your cousin. In truth, I don't know if you are
uncle or cousin to Sophia. Still, Uncle Dele
Momodu, it is immoral, unlawful and unethical
to clandestinely record anyone, especially friends
and family members.
Late evening on December 30, I responded to
your vicious internet publications that attacked
me and my family. But my father's counsel and
the love I have for Imade prompted me to recall
the arrow aimed at you. You see, my father
raised me well, and I promptly complied with his
advise. I thus deleted all references to the issue
of December 29 at the Airport and apologized to
you in particular, along with all my fans. I
showed you respect even if u had provoked me.
Instead of reciprocating with love and elderly
wisdom, you sustained your attack of me with
even more venom and hatefulness. With all due
respect for my dad, I am compelled to speak to
your lies and your simulation of grand self-
importance. I am 23 and you are almost 60.
Your cousin has a baby for me. Rather than
bring us together as a family, you wished for
glowing embers to come out of cool cucumber.
This is why you instructed your lawyers to put
garbage on the internet in a matter that should
be showcased in the court of law. Uncle, who
offended you? Is it Davido, Sophia or Imade? It
cannot be my late mum after whom I named
Imade. Is it my gentle dad?
I am 23 and a performing artiste that God
immensely blessed and I have joyfully made
good in the industry. I won’t do this forever, and
I shall timely step aside in the nearest future. I
have a degree and I am stashing my monies
aside so that I can build a decent future for
Imade plus my future wife and family. I believe
as the bible says, ''every good gift is from
above''.
There is nothing better in life than to tell the
truth and pray. May God ever stand by me and
deliver to me my dreams and wishes. May He
also deliver to your own children their dreams
and desires. Uncle Dele Momodu, please, please
leave me and my family alone even if it is clear,
by God's will, that you can't do us a thing. As
for me, this is the end of this conversation. May
God lead both of us to the righteous path.
I rest my case
DAVID ADEDEJI ADELEKE
Esther Adeleke Way
Lekki Phase 1, Lagos.
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