Social media titan Babalola Osogbiye dug out
the dead bones in an interview with wife of the
latest Marriage counselor “Charly Boy”. An
enlightening interview that reveals the ups and
the downs of the marriage life of the couple and
how they have been able to pull through 38
years without being a subject of media. Words
are not enough to give details of the interview,
read more after the cut...
She is married to one of Nigerians most
controversial iconic personalities. The "weird"
one Charly Boy has fought for the rights of the
average Nigerian. He has on several occasions
been tortured by the Nigerian police and the
military for standing up to bad leadership or
unfair treatment of the impoverished masses.
His television series, The Charly Boy Show was
one of the most watched programmes for a very
long time. He’s an accomplished singer/
songwriter, television presenter, publisher,
producer and talent judge.
The American trained mass communication
masters degree holder, who decided in his own
words, to punish his parents by creating the
larger than life image. A punk, a boy, an
AreaFada, and lately a Jesus lover. He has been
married three times before, his present marriage
is the 4th and maybe the last, kissed
Denrele Edun, has a pet python was
photographed naked. That pretty much sums it
up, from a shallow point of view. One person
who knows this enigma would be his wife of
38yrs the best person to give intimate account.
Lady Diane Oputa.
38yrs SEEMS LIKE FOREVER IN COMPARISON
TO THE LIFE SPAN OF THE AVERAGE
CELEBRITY MARRIAGE. HOW HAVE YOU
MANAGED ?
I have been able to manage very well because
of the man I got married to. Charles is a strong
family man, a decent gentleman who puts his
family first before anything else. He has been a
wonderful husband, a good father and a
wonderful son to his parents. Charles is the
husband every woman dreams about. He is
sensitive, he listens, the first to apologize if he
is wrong. I love his never say die spirit. I think
we were ordained by God to marry each other
because we both want the same thing, we are
both committed to our marriage. Like they say,
it takes two to tango. However our marriage has
not been a bed of roses, we have our issues and
challenges, but because we are best of friends,
because we are loyal to our commitment we
always resolve whatever issue that comes up, to
move forward. We don't have a perfect marriage,
no such thing in this world, but we have a
friendship that has endured through time. It has
been a long journey and we have had ups and
downs within the 38years that we have been
together. But we are happy together. A lot of
couples haven't got that far-we are really
privileged. I thank God.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARD PART OF YOUR
UNION? , THE THINGS THAT MADE YOU MAD.
In the beginning it was the women, my gosh!
Women everywhere. Charles is a charmer. He
had 7kids from his away matches and the
women he married that didn't work out, before
we got married. His stubbornness was
sometimes obnoxious. During his hay days as a
performer, his acts were sometimes so
overboard that I will refuse doing his background
vocals and we always argued/quarreled about
that. But as the years rolled by I found ways of
calming him down, and curing my high blood
pressure. I later found out that the women were
more for his hypes and pons, like the charly’s
virgins. One thing I knew from the beginning
was that my husband always wanted to be a
family man, after all he grew up seeing both
parents together for sixty something years
before papa passed on. Much later the women
thing totally fizzled out. In the beginning I
wasn't too sure how to deal with all his children
from deferent women, but trust charles he
knows how to put his family together. That's
how I overnight became a mother of 9 children
plus my last three. The only thing that he still
does that pisses me off till tomorrow is his
silence, when he is angry about something. He
will lock himself in his room and may not talk to
me for days. I can't deal with that because we
talk all the time our communication is on point.
He always says he doesn't want to say the
wrong things when he is angry. Otherwise,
Charles is the best thing to happen to me and I thank God for that.
WHY DO YOU THINK CELEBRITIES MARRIAGES
HAVE SHORT LIFE SPAN?
Celebs marriages are not different from any
other marriage, however, the bottom-line is that
both parties have to know what they want from
the start. For most young people it's about the
packaging and never the content. Marriage is
about two people who want to stay married no
matter the weather, if one person wants it more
than the other it won't work. The ingredients for
a fairly decent marriage, will be mutual respect,
good communication between the couples and
good friendship. Thank God that today what we
have most, is old fashion friendship. My
husband is not your typical Nigerian person,
above all he listens and he is very sensitive to
how I am feeling as my friend and it's all
mutual...
HAS YOUR TRUST FOR HIM EVER WOBBLED?
Yes, in the beginning the first maybe 8yrs, too
many drama that I was dealing with. It wasn't
easy at all but I also matured along the way. I
began to see things for what they really are not
for what it looked like. Experience has thought
me how to separate the boy Charly from my
man Charles. Charly is an incorrigible botton
pusher and that will never stop, but my man
Charles is also an incorrigible introvert and
that's who I married. A few times he has
reported himself to me and he is not good at lying.
BEING FULFILLED IN MARRIAGE IS
GUARANTEED WHEN YOUR SPOUSE IS
SUPPORTIVE, UNDERSTANDING AND SENSITIVE
TO YOUR FEELINGS AND MOST IMPORTANTLY,
WHEN HE IS ALWAYS LOOKING FOR CREATIVE
WAYS TO KEEP THE FIRE BURNING.
YOUR HUSBAND IS NOW A MARRIAGE
COUNSELOR OF SORT, HOW DOES HE COPE
GIVING UP HIS PERSONAL NUMBER TO FANS
WHO HAVE MARRIAGE PROBLEMS?
Yea, that's Charlyboy for you, who else would
give their personal number on air. Do you know
how many calls he receives per minute? He
however has been doing all of that for a very
long time, it's only recently he went ballistic
with that. I guess for him, he wants to always
feel useful, always wanting to teach, to share, to
give hope to the hopeless, that's charlyboys
story, aside the fact that he likes to confuse
people with his antics. Am I surprised? no. I
won't be surprised if tomorrow he opens a
church. Charles has always been spiritual ever
since I met him, very deep. That's why for
people who meet him one on one, they are so
charmed because he is nothing like charlyboy
puts out. And it takes intelligence and discipline
to know the boundaries. He has counselled and
inspired millions of nigerian youths, to be
themselves, be focused and never to let anyone
kill their dream. I love him for the many lives he
has touched and still touching, for all who
worked with him, they too can testify he added
value to their lives. That's who he is.
IT’S ALMOST GOING TO 4DECADES OF
MARRIAGE WHAT KEEPS THE FIRE BURNING?
Hummm!!!! Charly can be un unrepentant
romantic when he wants to be. Though he
hasn't pulled any stunt to sweep me off my feet
recently, but he can be full of surprises. The last
time, he asked me to escort him to the airport
to receive a certain business partner from the
carribean. Before I knew what was happening, I
was on my way to the Bahamas, sweden and
Dubai, with nothing but my purse. He knows I
love romance and from time to time he figures
ways to sweep me off my feet. That's why we
try to keep it as youthful and as fresh as we
can. We really work at it. It's not easy but we
are determined. Charles woos me with his
outlandish and elaborate stunts, and I like it. I
always look forward to my birthdays. We are like
two buddies.
RESENT REPORT SAYS HE HAS BECOME MORE
RELIGIOUS AND HAS FINALLY BECOME BORN
AGAIN?
Charles has always been spiritual, has always
given himself to service. He has always been an
inspiration to millions of frustrated nigerian
youths. His life style has made thousands chase
their own dreams and never gave up on
theirselves. Yes, people where not too sure what
to make of him, because he kept confusing
people who couldn't see the humour or the
sense in how he was putting out. He has always
been about how he can add value to his
environment and the people he meets. He may
not have been a regular church goer but was a
Christian by his actions. I guess the difference
now is that the press seems to be reporting
more of his works and the value he promotes
than all the stunts he pulls to keep the people
guessing. But yes he is more calmer now, more
at peace now and more spiritual. Like they say,
there is a time and season for everything. He is
been there done that and seen that, what else
can be new for him so I guess is Jesus time
from here on and that's all the better for him.
He is doing what God wants him to do.
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